孩子寫(xiě)給父母的“十誡”

這是少年商學(xué)院微信（ID：youthmba）的第715次分享，作者系少年商學(xué)院特約撰稿人、在美國(guó)高校從事課程設(shè)計(jì)工作的南橋。我們已獲授權(quán)，請(qǐng)勿轉(zhuǎn)載。

少年商學(xué)院編輯注：大家可能對(duì)《誡子書(shū)》耳熟能詳，那是諸葛亮臨終前寫(xiě)給他兒子諸葛瞻的一封家書(shū)，其中“靜以修身，儉以養(yǎng)德”“非淡泊無(wú)以明志，非寧?kù)o無(wú)以致遠(yuǎn)”都是膾炙人口的名句。不過(guò)在美國(guó)，事情反過(guò)來(lái)了，孩子們寫(xiě)給家長(zhǎng)們?nèi)舾伞爸腋妗?，堪稱《誡父母書(shū)》了。

收拾東西，翻出女兒有一年暑假參加一個(gè)Vacation Bible School時(shí)候拿回家的一個(gè)“十誡”，讀來(lái)很有啟發(fā)，有很多方面我都沒(méi)有做到，應(yīng)該好好學(xué)習(xí)。我還翻譯了出來(lái)，供其他家長(zhǎng)借鑒：

A Child’s Ten Commandments to Parents

父母十誡

1. My hands are small; please don’t expect perfection whenever I make my bed, draw a picture or throw a ball. My legs are short; please slow down so that I can keep up with you.

我的手還小，我鋪床、畫(huà)畫(huà)、扔球的時(shí)候，請(qǐng)您不要求全責(zé)備。我的腿比您短，請(qǐng)您走慢些，好讓我能跟上。

2. My eyes have not seen the world as yours have; please let me explore safely; don’t restrict me unnecessarily.

我還沒(méi)有像您一樣見(jiàn)多識(shí)廣，在安全的前提下，請(qǐng)讓我去去大膽探索，不要到處限制。

3. Housework and money will always be there. I’m only little for such a short time-please take the time to explain things to me about this wonderful world and do so willingly.

家務(wù)活是做不完的，錢是掙不完的，而我的童年這么短暫，能否花點(diǎn)時(shí)間和我在一起，跟我講述這個(gè)世界的奧妙。

4. My feelings are tender, please be sensitive. Don’t nag me all day long. (You wouldn’t want to be nagged for your inquisitiveness). Treat me as you would like to be treated.

我的感情十分稚嫩，請(qǐng)對(duì)我的需要保持敏感，不要成天跟我數(shù)落嘮叨。（我也不會(huì)對(duì)您的再三問(wèn)詢感到厭煩。）己所不欲，勿施于人。

5. I am a special gift from God; please treasure me as my Creator intended you to do, holding me accountable for my actions, giving me guidelines to live by and disciplining me in a loving manner.

我是上帝賜給您的特別禮物，請(qǐng)像造物主所希望的那樣，好好珍惜我，幫助我對(duì)我的行為負(fù)責(zé)，教我如何做人，我做錯(cuò)事情的時(shí)候，帶著愛(ài)心管教我。

6. I need your encouragement to grow. Please go easy on the criticism; you can criticize the things I do without criticizing me.

我需要您的鼓勵(lì)。批評(píng)我的時(shí)候，請(qǐng)注意您的方式。您批評(píng)的時(shí)候，可以對(duì)事不對(duì)人。

7. Please give me the freedom to make decisions concerning myself. Permit me to fail, so that I can learn from my own mistakes. Then someday I will be prepared to make the kind of decisions life will require of me.

請(qǐng)?jiān)试S我為自己做主。允許我犯錯(cuò)誤，好讓我能從自己的錯(cuò)誤中得到學(xué)習(xí)，這樣將來(lái)有一天，我就可以為自己的生活做出決定。

8. Please don’t do things over for me. Somehow that makes me feel that my efforts didn’t quite measure to your expectations. I know it’s hard, but please don’t try to compare me to my brother or sister or other kids.

不要事事替我代勞。要是您這樣的話，我會(huì)覺(jué)得您看不上我所做的一切。我知道這很難，可是請(qǐng)不要拿我跟我的哥哥姐姐或其他小孩去比。

9. Please don’t be afraid to leave for a weekend together. Kids need a vacation from parents, just as parents need vacations from kids. Besides it’s a great way to show us kids that your marriage is very special.

如果有需要，你們二位可以一起去找個(gè)別的地方度周末。父母可以給孩子放假，孩子也可以給父母放假。你們一起度假，也可以讓我們看到你們的婚姻何等寶貴。

10. Please set a good example for me to follow in all the ways of life. I enjoy watching the things you do and want to do them just like you do.

在生活的各個(gè)方面，都給我樹(shù)立榜樣。我喜歡看著您的一言一行，我會(huì)處處模仿。

溫馨提示：孩子們的能力總是遠(yuǎn)超我們想象。如果你家有8到12歲的小學(xué)生，點(diǎn)擊這里加入別開(kāi)生面的在線學(xué)習(xí)營(yíng)吧，無(wú)論身處何地都可參加。